The Role of Groomsmen in a Wedding

The role of groomsmen also plays an important part in your special day. Although groomsmen traditionally don't have as many responsibilities to attend to as the bridesmaids, there are still important tasks that need to be attended to. Depending on the size of the wedding, groomsmen might also be serving as the ushers. Groomsmen are generally at least sixteen years of age, although there might also be younger junior groomsmen in the wedding party.

Photo by andrew steinmetz.

The groomsmen are responsible for their own attire for the wedding, which generally means making sure to get to the tuxedo rental store in plenty of time for measurements and to get the tuxedo and shoes ordered. It's also important to make sure you look good for the big day, since both the bride and groom will probably be disappointed if you don't show up looking your best. Groomsmen should plan on getting a haircut the week of the wedding, and should show up fresh-shaven on the big day.

Groomsmen are responsible for all their own expenses, including transportation on the day of the wedding, lodging, and any expenses incurred during the various pre-wedding parties. It is also a good idea for groomsmen to be prepared to help out with anything else the groom or even the bride might need during the time leading up to the wedding.

There may be a number of parties leading up to the wedding, including the rehearsal dinner, and if possible, the role of groomsmen should be to attend. Not only is this considered to be polite, but it will also help everyone become better acquainted so that the wedding day goes more smoothly.

The groomsmen will be involved in planning the groom's bachelor party or buck's night, if he wants one. It's important to keep the likes and preferences of the groom in mind when planning the bachelor's party. Modern bachelor parties often involve sporting events or other fun outings, such as go-karting, golf or skirmish, instead of a trip directly to a strip club.

On the day of the wedding, the role of groomsmen includes showing up early with their suit, shoes and other clothing items. Duties before the wedding will include welcoming guests and escorting them to their seats, directing the bride's guests to the left side of the church and the groom's guests to the right. If one side of the church become significantly more full than the other, the rest of the guests should be guided to the less full side to even things out a bit. When seating a group of guests, the eldest guests are seated first. A groomsman should offer his right arm to a woman when leading her to her seat. After all the guests have been seated, special guests such as the bride and groom's mothers and any grandparents should be seated.

One of the groomsmen should make sure the aisle runner is in place before the procession begins, then all the groomsmen should take their place at the front of the church beside the groom, with the best man standing closest. After the ceremony, the groomsmen will escort the bridesmaids back down the aisle during the recessional.

After the ceremony, groomsmen should help escort guests from the church, working on pew at a time to keep things from becoming crowded. They can then direct guests to the reception, help gather groups together for photographs, assist with any necessary clean up tasks, and then join everyone else at the reception.

Groomsmen, and especially the best man, are often asked to give a toast at the reception. Groomsmen also generally dance with the bridesmaids during the reception. If the groom throws the bride's garter, all single groomsmen should join the other single male guests to try to catch it. After the reception is over and the bride and groom have left, groomsmen should help clean up if necessary.

Top of The Role of Groomsmen Page

Back To Groomsmen

Back to Home Page